Online Therapy in Rancho Cucamonga and Throughout California

Therapy for Women: Anxiety and People-Pleasing

A space to find the courage to overcome anxiety and set healthy boundaries.

Learn to say

what you mean!

Are you…

  • Holding it together on the outside but falling apart within?

  • Concerned about what other people think about you?

  • Beating around the bush because you don’t know what to say?

  • Sacrificing your needs and wants to avoid upsetting others?

  • Afraid to tell someone ‘No’?

  • Avoiding confrontation?

…a people pleaser?

Kirsten Cheong LMFT

You’re in the right place

Hey! My name is Kirsten Cheong (Curse-ten Chong). I’m a therapist who knows what it takes to put this suffering behind you.

I help anxious women struggling with people-pleasing learn how to set boundaries and say ‘no’ with less guilt, shame, and fear. You may know what you want to say but the fear of upsetting someone causes too much anxiety to handle. But it gets old and resentment starts to build. Although you want to say “no”, you say “yes” because upsetting people isn’t an option. The cycle doesn’t end…

My work starts by helping you figure out how to move past the anxiety and start standing up for yourself.

Let’s work together to boost your confidence!

Therapy for Women with Anxiety

Anxiety and overthinking never solved a problem. Therapy can help you learn how to catch yourself when you are overthinking and put a stop to it. Even if you don’t have a glaring childhood trauma-that would make you feel justified in having anxiety-we can review your experiences throughout your life that best explain the development of your preoccupation. We will find applicable skills that work for you to find long-lasting relief from anxiety.

People-pleasing & Boundaries

Learn to say ‘No.’ with less fear, guilt, and shame. You spend hours crafting the perfect text message or rehearsing what you’re going to say before a conflict because you are afraid of upsetting others. Learning how to have healthy boundaries helps people with anxiety stop avoiding conflict because of fear. Therapy can help you become less fearful of conflict and learn how to manage that insufferable anxiety.

Online EMDR Therapy

If you want to go beyond talking about your past and finally feel like you’ve resolved past traumas, EMDR may be for you. EMDR therapy helps connect to the part of yourself that is stuck in the past and suffering from your trauma. Although you had to pull yourself by the bootstraps and move on with life, a version of you relives the trauma everyday. EMDR connects mind and body to help that stuck part find relief from the suffering.

Ready for the next step?

  1. Connect here to schedule a free 20 minute consultation or call me at 760-281-3364. We’ll make sure we’re a good match. I will answer your questions so you can be sure I’m the right therapist for you

  2. Book your first appointment. We’ll get to know each other and start to unpack your history.

  3. Set weekly sessions. This time is dedicated to you and your healing journey!

“The hardest thing about implementing boundaries is accepting that some people won’t like, understand, or agree with yours. Once you grow beyond pleasing others, setting your standards becomes easier. Not being liked by everyone is a small consequence when you consider the overall reward of healthier relationships.”
― Nedra Glover Tawwab, Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself—

HOW I WORK

Your therapist should be a good fit.

Schedule a free, no-obligation consultation to decide if I’m a good fit for you. If we are, great! We’ll schedule your first appointment and begin mapping out a path to your goals.

If not, no problem. I’ll refer to you to another talented therapist in my network who can help.