Online Trauma Therapy for Women in California | EMDR & IFS

Online therapy for women throughout California — healing trauma from the comfort of home

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You're Not Too Much. You Were Just Never Enough…to Them."

You look like you have it all together. You go to work, you have a social life, maybe you're even in a relationship, but something is wrong, and only you know it. On the inside, you experience debilitating self-doubt. You're afraid of conflict, so you people-please, smile, and agree even when something doesn't feel right, just to keep the peace."

You've become an expert at managing yourself so you don’t anger or disappoint others. Every word gets weighed before it leaves your mouth. Every interaction gets replayed for hours afterward. You make yourself smaller, quieter, and easier because somewhere along the way, you learned that your comfort matters less than everyone else's.

You might not realize it, or feel comfortable claiming it, but what you're experiencing is a trauma response. It's called fawning. Your nervous system — the same one wired for fight or flight — learned that the safest way to survive was to become as agreeable and non-threatening as possible. Because losing a relationship, or simply disappointing someone, can feel like a threat to your very safety."

Here's the good news: you are not broken! Your body has been protecting you the only way it knew how. Fawning is just as legitimate a survival response as fighting back or running away. It kept you safe when you needed it most. But now we need to understand why your nervous system still believes you're in danger. That's exactly where EMDR and IFS therapy come in.

This Is Where EMDR and IFS Come In

 

Both EMDR and IFS are powerful therapies designed to help you do more than manage your overthinking and anxiety, they help you actually heal from it.

EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) is an evidence-based therapy that works with your brain and body's natural ability to heal. Through guided eye movements, EMDR helps your nervous system process experiences that got stuck, whether that's a single traumatic event or years of ongoing emotional distress. If you've been struggling with anxiety, depression, or a constant sense that something is wrong, EMDR may offer the relief you've been looking for. 

IFS (Internal Family Systems) is a gentle but powerful approach that helps you understand the different "parts" of yourself — the part that people-pleases, the part that shuts down, the part that's always bracing for something to go wrong. Rather than fighting these parts or trying to silence them, IFS helps you get curious about them. Every part of you developed for a reason, usually to protect you from pain you didn't know how to handle at the time. When you understand what your parts are trying to do for you, you can finally give them permission to rest.

EMDR and IFS work together seamlessly to help you understand your core wounds and actually heal them. Whether you struggle with feeling unworthy, unlovable, or simply not enough, we can work with the deepest parts of your inner world to resolve the beliefs and conflicts that keep you spiraling and keep you living for everyone else's feelings instead of your own.

 

You'll know EMDR and IFS are working when you notice a shift in the way you think about yourself. Situations that once triggered your fight, flight, or fawn response will start to feel neutral. You'll find yourself expressing who you really are more freely with less editing, less monitoring, less holding back. And on the days that still feel like too much, you'll have tools that actually work.

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You've Already Taken the First Step

Reading this page took courage, even if it doesn't feel that way right now. Something in you knew you deserved more than just getting through the day. That part of you was right.

You don't have to have it all figured out before you reach out. You don't need to know exactly what happened or be able to explain why you feel the way you do. You just have to be willing to take one more step.

I'm here when you're ready.

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Frequently Asked Questions About Online Trauma Therapy

 

  • Yes — and yes. Online EMDR has been widely researched and proven just as effective as in-person sessions. In fact, many clients find it easier to do trauma work from the comfort and safety of their own home. All you need is a private space, a stable internet connection, and a willingness to show up.

    Read this blog postabout EMDR therapy.

  • Not at all. Many of my clients don't have a formal PTSD diagnosis — they just know something feels off. If you've spent years people-pleasing, overthinking, or feeling like you're never quite enough, that's worth exploring in therapy. You don't need a label to deserve help.

  • IFS helps you understand the different parts of yourself — the part that shuts down, the part that people-pleases, the part that's always bracing for something to go wrong. Rather than just talking about your problems, IFS helps you get curious about why those parts exist and what they've been trying to protect you from. It's deeper, more targeted, and often faster than traditional talk therapy.

  • EMDR and IFS are complementary approaches that work beautifully together. EMDR helps your brain and body process and release traumatic memories that got stuck. IFS helps you understand and heal the parts of yourself that formed around those memories. How we use them depends entirely on where you are in your healing. Some sessions lean more heavily on one than the other. Think of them as two tools in the same toolbox.

  • Traditional talk therapy is valuable, but it primarily engages the thinking part of your brain. Trauma lives in the body and the nervous system — which is why you can talk about something for years and still feel the same way. EMDR and IFS work directly with the nervous system and the deeper parts of your psyche where trauma actually lives. Many of my clients come to me after years of talk therapy and find that things finally start to shift.

  •  Fawning is a trauma response — just like fight or flight — where your nervous system has learned that the safest way to survive is to be agreeable, accommodating, and non-threatening. If you find yourself constantly monitoring what you say, apologizing unnecessarily, avoiding conflict at all costs, or putting everyone else's comfort above your own — that's fawning. It's not a personality flaw. It's your nervous system doing its job. We just need to help it understand that you're safe now.

  • Healing isn't linear and everyone's timeline is different. Most clients start with weekly sessions and gradually move to every other week as they make progress. Some people notice shifts within a few months. Others, particularly those healing from complex childhood trauma or narcissistic abuse, may be in therapy longer. What I can promise is that we'll work at a pace that feels safe for you — never pushing faster than your nervous system is ready for.

  • Yes, Optum/United Health Care and Aetna. If I don’t accept your insurance, you may pay out of pocket at use your out of network benefits for reimbursement. I use Thrizer to submit claims on your behalf, making it as easy for you as possible. You can use this benefits calculator here for an estimate on your reimbursement.

  • The first step is a free 20-minute consultation. You can schedule here. This is a no-pressure conversation where we make sure we're a good fit before you commit to anything.

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